Leaving a Legacy: The Qualities of A Godly Leader

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1) A leader is humble.  

Have you ever met someone who was a “know-it-all?” True leaders don’t need to boast about their accomplishments or achievements. They are committed to their work and trust in the Lord to promote them at the proper time.

Whether we’re working in the board room or tending to a baby, we can work with our whole hearts, knowing that God will be glorified through our sincere efforts.

The Word of God says, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time,” (1 Peter 5:6).

2) A leader is helpful.

A Godly leader works enthusiastically with his hands. Jesus said “If anyone desires to be first, he shall be last of all and servant of all,” (Mark 9:35). We must discover our passion and use it to solve a need or problem in our society.

3) A leader is holy.

Godly leaders know who they are, and whose they are.   

Do you know that you are royalty? According to 1 Peter 2:8-10, we are chosen by God to “proclaim His praises.” As we develop as leaders, we must vocalize what the Word of God says, even though others may not agree. In this way, we’ll stand as light in a dark world that needs to know Jesus.

4) A leader is authentic.

Godly leaders are focused on pleasing God, rather than impressing man.

Whether 7 or 70 years old. Wherever God is calling us to lead, we can tailor our work and message to meet the needs of the people we’re seeking to reach. Micah 6:8 says, ”…don’t take yourself too seriously – take God seriously,” (Micah 6:8 MSG).

We have the confidence to lead, not because we have it all together, but because God is the one who empowers us for His use.

5) A leader is grateful.

“Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever,” (Psalm 118:1). A Godly leader never forgets to reflect on where he comes from. Has the Lord answered a prayer in your life? Are you better now than where you were several years ago? Has God opened new doors for you and closed doors that hindered your progress? Godly leaders take the time to say “thank you” for all that the Lord has done for us.

6) A leader is resourceful.

Godly leaders aren’t always experts in their field, but they surround themselves with people who are. “Without wise leadership, a nation falls; there is safety in having many advisers,” (Proverbs 11:14, NLT). We can grow our leadership skills by nurturing and developing others who can join us in fulfilling God’s mission for our lives. Great leaders never go at it alone.

Leaving a legacy and becoming a Godly leader takes courage, determination, and conviction. With the help of the Holy Spirit, we can obtain all that God destined for us to become.

Why God Does NOT Like Gossip

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We feel valued when someone shares something with us that few other people know.

Even more, there is power in sharing that secret with others. When the secret is something positive, like a surprise birthday party for someone, it is great fun for everyone. But when secrets tear people down instead of building them up, the results can be devastating.

How gossip damages people

While it’s true that God made us to be social creatures (“It is not good for man to be alone.” Genesis 2:18), sin has corrupted this desire for relationship. And instead of building healthy friendships, we end up gossiping about someone else just so we can be accepted.

In most circumstances, gossip is a betrayal of trust, and trust is very hard to come by for most people. It is the foundational element for any significant relationship. Without trust, most of us will not share our inner selves with anyone, no matter how deeply we may need that bond. In fact, we will often isolate ourselves rather than risk the pain of our insecurities being mocked in a public forum.

It is sadly ironic that those who gossip in order to connect with others will likely find themselves on the receiving end at some point. But if joining in the gossip is not the answer, how do you deal with this issue like Jesus would?

God is against gossip

Proverbs 6:16-19 says there are seven things that the Lord finds “detestable”, and speaking falsely against someone is in that list. In fact, giving a false testimony against someone made it into God’s Top 10 in Exodus 20:16.

James 1:26 tells us that someone who thinks he is religious without controlling his tongue is “deceiving himself” and has a “useless” religion. Perhaps the most telling is that, in Romans 1:28-32, Paul included gossips and slanderers in the same list as those who hate God and murder!

The big message is — God despises the practice of intentionally causing pain to others by what we say.

Are you a 1 Corinthians 13 person?

As followers of Jesus, we must embrace the standard of love that we have been called to. Spend some time in 1 Corinthians 13, and then learn to filter what you say and do through that checklist.

Before you speak or act, ask yourself, “Is this patient and kind?” “Am I just boasting or speaking out of envy?” In fact, make a regular practice of evaluating your entire life against this lofty set of goals. Starting in verse 4, replace the word “love” with your name. “Kwame is patient”, “Kwame is kind”, “Kwame does not envy”, etc. Are those true statements? Jesus said people will know you belong to Him if you love one another.

How to fight against gossip

Sometimes the best thing you can do is to endure a little shame on behalf of others instead of adding to their pain.

Proverbs 26:20 says that, like a fire, gossip stops when people stop gossiping. With a fire, you can let it go out slowly on its own or dump water on it to speed things up. The same is true for gossip.

When you are invited to gossip about someone, you could just walk away or try to change the subject. Or, you could stand up for what is right and challenge those around you to treat others with respect. Ask the gossiper, in love and gentleness, “Would you want someone to talk about you like that?”

Stand up for those who cannot stand up for themselves. This certainly won’t be easy, but it is what Jesus did for you. He endured unimaginable mocking, ridicule, and torment to save you from your sins precisely because you could not do it yourself.

For most of us, being isolated from those around us is one of the worst things we can experience, especially in our teen years. When you are invited to gossip, will you tear someone down just to build yourself up, or will you let the light of Jesus shine in the darkness?

“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing”. Proverbs 12:18

AKESSE BREMPONG SET TO RELEASE NEW SINGLE #GODISWORKING

The Contemporary gospel scenes in Ghana have over the few years experienced the springing forth of some vibrant young artistes. These firebrand artistes are taking the contemporary gospel music in Ghana to a whole new level. They combine musicality with intense spirituality drawing in a whole new followership that hitherto had nothing to do with gospel music.

Paramount amongst these vibrant new artistes is the man Akesse Brempong touted ‘Da Crazy Love Dude’.  Akesse made an entrance unto the contemporary gospel stage two years ago with his hit single “Crazy Love’’ thrilling gospel music enthusiasts with his style, vocal prowess and  his prolific song writing ability. The release of his 12 track “Songs In The Night’’ album last year shot the young artiste into international limelight. Before long, the Ghanaian artiste was sweeping awards both home and abroad.  The exhilarating motion picture to his tune “Crazy Love” did not only thrill Ghanaian viewers but it also made its way to international platforms like ABN and KICCTV in the UK.

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Having churned out great gospel reggae tunes like ‘Crazy Love’, ‘Closer’, ‘Wonder’ and My ‘World (Toala-ta-ta-ta)’ Akesse Brempong is fast becoming the household name for gospel reggae in Ghana. It was therefore not surprising when the multiple-award- winning artiste early this year announced that he was going to concentrate on the gospel reggae genre for a while. At his recent concert ‘Agape Carnival’ the premiere out-door gospel reggae carnival held at the West Hills Mall in July this year, thousands of gospel music lovers were up on their feet jamming in the Holy Ghost with Akesse Brempong and his band, Tribe of Judah.

Speaking on the inspiration for his new release #GODISWORKING Akesse Brempong says “God is Working is inspired by the birth of my son Chenaniah. My wife Dicta and I waited nearly four years for the fruit of the womb. We kept believing God and holding on to his promise. When it was time for us to have him, God turned around an armed robbery attach on my wife to announce the coming of our boy. What the enemy meant for evil turned out to be the precursor for the good news we had waited nearly four for.  We may not fully comprehend the ways of God but we can trust every word that he says to us. #GODISWORKING is a simple song that will inspire faith in everyone that hears it”.

#GODISWORKING is set in a typical Akesse Brempong root-rock-reggae style. The techno approach to the instrumentation amidst Akesse’s velvety vocal delivery puts the tune in a class of its own. It’s the kind of song that draws you into the music and before you realise you will be singing ‘bu-bu-ba-bu-bu-be-be’ and putting one finger in the air. Akesse’s management team in a press release stated that the song produced by Kwame Keys, the South Africa based Ghanaian producer extraordinaire will be released online on Tuesday 8th September, 2015 and made available for some free downloads.

Dating or Courtship? What Does the Bible Say?

DatingorCourtshipCourtesyPyschologyToday-1024x683Did you know there are no strict guidelines in the Bible about dating or courtship? Yes, many Christians have strong feelings about one versus the other, and many Christians are embracing purposeful courtship and “kissing dating goodbye” as Pastor Joshua Harris said in his debut book, but the Bible doesn’t specifically address the period of relationship before marriage.

Yes, the Bible does warn about fornication, men not even touching a woman and taking fire into one’s bosom (1 Cor. 6:12-20; 1 Cor. 7:1-2; Proverbs 6:27). However, how we enter the betrothal period, whether through dating or courtship, is pretty much up to us – and the Holy Spirit of course!

Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald of TLC’s 19 Kids and Counting learned this during premarital counseling when their pastor told them the decision to save their first kiss for the wedding day was not something the Bible mandated. He reinforced that their rules for kissing, hand holding, and side hugs were what they felt led to do and do not necessarily reflect biblical rules or mandates. In other words, all believers should not feel bound by their rules for courtship.

Although the Bible doesn’t specifically address dating and courtship or advocate for one over the other, we do have lots of examples of relationships in the Word so we can acquire divine wisdom and knowledge on how to conduct ourselves. We can read about Adam and Eve, Abraham and Sarah, Isaac and Rebekah, Jacob and Rachel and Leah, David and his wives, Ruth and Boaz, and Joseph and Mary. The Word provides many examples of godly and ungodly relationships for our spiritual growth. However, at the end of the day, our main objective as believers when getting to know potential suitors should be to maintain God’s standard for holiness and godly relationships.

As a result, here are a few ways you can establish godly relationships with the opposite sex and avoid the temptation to date in a worldly way.

Lead with truth.

There is a lot of deception in worldly dating. People lie about everything from their intentions to employment, education, and character. If you want to honor God when getting to know someone, be truthful. Let the person know your intentions for the relationship. Also, if you don’t feel the person is the one God has for you, let them know. Don’t let the relationship drag on if you’re not feeling it. Keep honesty at the forefront. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you (Matthew 7:12).

Establish boundaries.

As believers, God requires us to be holy (1 Peter 1:13-16). Our lives and bodies are not our own. They’ve been bought with Jesus’ blood (1 Cor. 6:19-20). Since the Bible admonishes us not to render our bodies to unrighteousness, establish boundaries in relationships. The Duggars give side hugs and do not engage in kissing or holding hands. Your boundaries may not be the same, but make them clear from the onset of the relationship. Some examples are not going over to each other’s houses or not being alone in isolated places. Get an accountability partner who will help you maintain the boundaries. Do whatever it takes to avoid sexual temptation. If the other person isn’t cool with the boundaries, then you can weed them out of your potential suitors.

Keep it light.

Finding a godly spouse is serious business, but sometimes we get so focused on our agendas, we forget to relax and enjoy getting to know people as brothers or sisters in Christ FIRST. Yes, ask all of the hard questions, but don’t get so focused on interviewing the person that you don’t take time to fellowship and grow in the Lord together. The Bible says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one person sharpens the wits of another” (Proverbs 27:17 NRSV). Every relationship is not intended for marriage. God may use the relationship for another purpose. He may use the other person to grow you or vice versa. Don’t get too serious too fast. Guard your heart and allow the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you throughout the relationship.

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

BlackCouple16Can you remember the first time your body responded to the presence of a person you were attracted to? Do you remember the physical arousal? The emotional scintillation? The mental distraction? Do you remember smiling at the very thought of that person?

Interestingly, these seemingly benign reactions could be signals or warning signs to keep one out of harms way. The reactions that seem innocent could prevent hurt feelings or angst of rejection. The reactions are normal; examine them. What did you learn about yourself? What did you learn about the other person?

How can one be certain feelings are reciprocated? Can one be certain the scenario is not a “friend in your head” relationship or that one isn’t “leading you on?” Initially, the rightness, wrongness, or the intentions of the suitor are somewhat elusive. In most cases you cannot ascertain levels of sincerity. Integrity and fidelity are character traits that surface as a relationship develops.

What do you look for? How do you know if the person is worthy of your time, attention, and trust? Along the way there will be behaviors that indicate trustworthiness, faithfulness, and follow through. These enduring qualities last after beauty has faded and the effects of gravity are unveiled.

Do you yearn to discover the good and the bad about the other? Does the “mystique” remain? Does that certain je ne sais quoi continue to attract, allure, and intrigue you? Are you so turn’t up you cannot stay away, but you cannot go away either. Interesting feelings…

Be willing to honestly explore an unfolding relationship. Get involved, get invested, or get out. A healthy relationship cycle might unfold this way:

  1. Attraction. You are drawn to each other, “you have chemistry.”
  2. Infatuation. You like each other, you are fond of each other.
  3. Affection. Exchange of affection—touching, hugs, holding hands, kissing.
  4. Conflict. Disagreement, discussion, argument.
  5. Resolution. Settle disagreement(s) and make up (Green, 1999).

The phases of the relationship cycle are repeated and a stronger relational bond can be built. Skipping phases only stalls relational growth. Passing through the crucible of resolution rather than taking the route of avoidance can yield information about levels of compatibility and coping abilities.

As one becomes more infatuated, grows more passionately attracted, and discovers new areas of conflict, the relationship grows in levels of intimacy—emotional, spiritual, and physical. Healthy conflict resolution versus conflict avoidance helps build a strong relational bond. Generally speaking, after several rotations of the relationship life cycle, the tenor of the relationship can tend to be comfortable and accepting for both parties. However, differing desires can create tension and conflict.

A wise old woman is quoted as saying, “Girl, men don’t marry. They mate. You have to help a man find the altar.” Do not mix your metaphors. According to The Holy Writ, it is better to marry than to burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:9),

In a word, dating is a horse of another color. Sometimes the rules are not clear. Uncertainty can shroud the purpose of the relationship along with wavering levels of commitment. Oftentimes such instability creates confusing signals.